Hetter describes her methods of teaching her child that it's OK to say no to an adult who lays a hand on her, even a seemingly friendly hand, and why parenting experts agree. How can this affect a child's decisions and feelings about their body later on?
“Ordering children to kiss or hug an adult they don't want to touch teaches them to use their body to please you or someone else in authority or, really, anyone. We teach them that their bodies do not really belong to them because they have to push aside their own feelings about what feels right to them... this can lead to children getting sexually abused, teen girls submitting to sexual behavior so 'he'll like me' and kids enduring bullying because everyone is 'having fun.'”
Read on for further resources on how to talk to your young child that about body privacy and personal boundaries.